Self Awareness Is Key….
As I was listening to Alt Nation on Sirius XM (because I won’t listen to terrestrial radio anymore, ever, at all) on came “I Don’t Want To Be An Asshole Anymore” by The Menzingers. I realized self awareness is key. This guy knows he’s an asshole, he knows he sucks and dammit, he’s trying to change. I commend that.
But when you’re a self-aware asshole hell-bent on trying to change yourself, how do you measure your success? Does one less person on the highway give you the finger? Do three people at work not mutter ‘asshole’ as they walk away from you? Does your boy/girlfriend not scream at you and throw things at you as often as they used to? And I realized the measure of success is pretty much self assured. If you go through your day and one less person flips you off and you consider that success, then go for it. Or, you could take it a measure further and actually try to do something nice for someone and not expect anything in return. Perhaps this asshole will grow enough in their life so they can become an acceptable and productive member of society.
My dad (God bless his soul) had a theory that I have come to adopt in my life. Some people are A’s (pronounced Ahhh). They are assholes. If you’re an A, you can redeem yourself and become a normal person again. But once you become a TA (yep, you got it, pronounced T-Ahhh) you’re a Total Asshole. There’s no redemption from that status. You can try, but you’re such an asshole, you’re bound to slip and sink to TA status once again. It’s been scientifically proved this can happen in a matter of mere hours. I know, I’ve seen it happen.
In a world full of TA’s and A’s, it’s important to separate yourself from them and stand out on your own and be a good person. Sometimes it’s hard. Sometimes the easiest way to combat a TA or an A is to be one yourself. You must resist. It’s imperative to the continuation of the human race as a compassionate, self-reliant entity that you don’t devolve to their level. You must treat a TA and A with total kindness. It makes them crack under the pressure. They don’t fully understand it. An A might, in fact, recognize their asshole-ness and change. In that case, you’ve done your duty as a human. Good on you, mate! And on behalf of other humans, thank you.
I hope the lead singer of The Menzingers has found his success and is no longer an asshole. And if you haven’t heard the song, it’s freakin’ awesome. Do yourself and favor and give it a listen. It’s lots of fun.